Dancing in the Dark

I have just danced with an old friend.

She is called Anger.

You see, these last few weeks, I have been sitting on myself. Compressing myself into a ‘likeable’ space. I’ve not been expressing my full truth because I felt afraid of being rejected. And my truth included healthy, honest anger.

Yet, in stifling my anger, I’ve cut myself off from my beloveds. I’ve become separate and isolated – the very outcome I was trying to avoid.

What happens when you sit on your anger?

For me, in the long term, I put on weight. My body feels stagnant, stuck. And the energy of anger finds its way out in explosive rage, being passive-aggressive or else suffering depressive spells.

Anger is an energy that needs movement. It is combustible. It is fire. It is ignition. And it is libidic energy, life force, and is closely allied to our raw creative energy. Suppressing it can make us ill. Expressing it lights up our energy, fires us up. We reclaim life force for healing, creativity and dreams.

If you find speaking it too scary, try dancing to find the form anger takes in your body. For example;

• Open your mouth and throat and silently scream

• Bring in punching movements

• Raise your hands in a ‘stop’ gesture

• Use your body to create boundaries around your space

And if you find it hard to dance, to let go into movement on your own, then join one of my monthly online dance sessions – Dancing in the Dark. You’ll be one of six women moving from stuck into flow, stagnant into aliveness. Together.